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What the group chat teaches us about generosity

The story we tell afterwards is tidier than the choice we made at the time.

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Put a number on restraint and it becomes a target; put a target on it and the number stops meaning what it meant. We describe the departure from the model as an error. We might equally describe the model as a hopeful guess about us. Understanding people turns out to be a more urgent task than changing them, and a great deal harder. It is tempting to call this irrational. It is more useful to ask what it is for.

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Notice how rarely anyone is argued out of the receipt, and how often they are simply moved past it by a change in circumstance. Every one of us runs the same shortcut, and every one of us believes we are the exception. The usual story is that we are careless calculators. The better story is that we are careful about the wrong things. The honest conclusion is uncomfortable for reformers: people are not waiting to be corrected.

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Alina Petrova
Alina Petrova — Editor-in-chief

Alina Petrova is a Year 12 student preparing to apply to university, and the founder and editor of The Unreasonable Human. She reads across psychology, economics, behavioural science and neuroscience, and writes about the gap between how people are supposed to decide and how they actually do.

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